10 Marriage tips you need know

1. Surprises
A marriage can easily slip into a rut of banality and predictability. The secret of a long, happy married life is freshness. You need to make a real effort to maintain at least some of the excitement you had when you first got together. And one of the best ways of doing so is to continually surprise each other. Anything unexpected, that breaks your daily routine is ideal. Don’t wait for birthdays or anniversaries to do something nice for the one you love.

2. Take a break from the kids
You may love your kids with all your heart, and be willing to do anything for them, but sometimes you and your husband need time away from them. When you have children, your life changes dramatically. You find yourself with very little time or energy fir marriage. But it is important to occasionally take a break from your kids to give your marriage a much needed shot in the arm. Go away for the weekend or even just one night-anything that provides the quality time alone that your marriage has been so missing.

3. Do it his way
Many modern women are so dominant and empowered, that their husbands are forced to take a back seat. In certain situations, this isn’t a problem. Most men do like to take things easy so the less they need to think about the better. However, sometimes even men need to feel valued and, to a large extent, in charge. After all, they are traditionally the hunter/gatherer the stronger species. So every so often, let your husband take control. Give him the reigns and do things his way.

4. Support his interests
As tempting as it is to be disparaging about your husband’s hobbies, you must resist the urge. It doesn’t matter whether it’s playing squash or collecting football memorabilia be supportive and respectful not critical and judgmental. The bottom line is that it makes him happy. And remember, if you have a happy husband you’re half way to a happy marriage.

5. Pick your battles
If you wage war on every little dispute or disagreement, your marriage will be over before you know it. Pick your battles. Don’t fight over silly little things that are of no real consequence. If an issue is important to your spouse and you’re really not bothered, let him have his own way. Not only will you avoid an unnecessary fight but you will show him that sometimes you value his feelings more than your own. If he is a man worth staying with, he will return the favour when the tables are reversed. The end result is dramatically fewer fights and a noticeably happier marriage.

6. Get out of the rut.
Human beings are creatures of habit. The more we do something the less likely we are do anything else. We are susceptible to falling into a rut which we often struggle to get out of. And there are few ruts as deep as a married one. After a while, your relationship can slowly drift into a monotonous cycle where the days seem to blend into one. A happy, vibrant marriage is almost impossible to maintain in these circumstances. So get out your ladder and climb on out of that rut. Try something new; change your routine-anything to add some much needed fresh impetus to your relationship.

7. Start the day with a kiss
Too many couples have no physical contact in the mornings before they each go their separate ways for the day. Bodily contact is an essential part of any marriage. It’s all to easy to slip into a routine of never having any except when you’re having sex. So before you leave the house in the morning, share a little kiss. It doesn’t need to be long, passionate snog but it should be more than a quick peck on the cheek. It’s kiss to say ‘’I love you’’ so put some feeling into it. Not only, is it pleasurable but it helps reaffirms your unity every morning of the week.

8. You’re a team
A marriage is a partnership. A man and a woman coming together to form one entity, one team. Your life becomes entwined with that of your spouse and therefore so does your feelings and ultimately your level of happiness. Although it’s important to retain some sense of independence, you must work together in all aspects of life. As soon as you stop helping and supporting one another, cracks will begin to appear. The longer this goes on, the deeper the cracks become until the damage becomes irreparable.

9. Reassurance
Doubts and insecurities can creep into your mind at any given time. Nobody is immune from these negative thoughts, and that includes your husband. Sometimes we need to be told, ‘’everything is going to be alright’’ and who better to tell you than your partner. Reassurance from the one you love can feel like a warm blanket being wrapped around your shoulders on a cold day. It provides a feeling of safety and security and immediately sets to work expelling those negative thoughts from your head.

10. Think before you speak
So many martial arguments could be avoided if we just took a moment to think before we spoke. Blurting out whatever pops into your head will only cause problems. Take a moment to think, ‘’Do I really need to moan about that?’’ or ‘’How can I phrase this in a non confrontational way?’’A little bit of tact and common sense can really make all the difference. Remember, engage your brain before you loose with your tongue.


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